Not sure if i did the right thing

by Russ
(West virginia, united states)

Hello everyone. I met a woman on thiacupid.com. She seemed very nice and I got hooked. I'm not sure if it is a scam or not because I really like her. she's from Ghana which is a red flag from what I read but I kept talking to her. I've been talking to her now for three months morning and evening hours at a time. She said her mother left her and her father and took everything they had and its been a struggle ever since.

She told me she had a beauty shop which was destroyed in a storm. She told me she had a boyfriend when she was 18 and by the time she was 20 he had to move back to turkey. She said she has been by herself ever since. I wanted her to visit me because I thought and still do think we get along great. I started sending her money for a visa and passport which was 650 dollars for each. I continued to send her more money for other things that she said happened to her.

The one thing was the kitchen windows were blown out by a storm. I sent her money to repair that and then I sent her money for airfare to come here but before she could come though something happened to her father so I sent her money to help her father and because of that she had to postpone the flight for a later date.

Then she said her father needed a device so he could get better after the operation he had so I gave her money for that. The day for her to come to me was approaching and she was getting ready to come. She said that before she left her father surprised her with 121 pounds of gold and what she told me was she tried to smuggle it past the guards. She got caught and was detained by immigration.

I got a call from someone telling me she was arrested and I was able to even talk to her which I liked because I finally heard her voice which was nice. The straw that broke the camels back was when she said she needed 30,000 dollars and to tell you the truth I was going to send it. I did a lot of thinking that night because I was emailing her lawyer or who ever he was concerning how to send it.

I even went so far as to take the money out of my mutual fund. I decided not to send the money. I don't know if I did the right thing or not because my heart is broken. I have never been through this before that's it for me. I'm finished with the whole online dating scene.

So that's my story.